To launch an arrow from a bow, resistance is necessary. Tension with the bow string propels the arrow toward its desired target. Choosing to travel the alphabet, beginning with “A”, apprehensively yet avidly approaching the absolutely astonishing alphabet with aspiration for artless accuracy, mirrors the archer’s administered adaptation for an arrow’s astounding airlift. Initially, I imagined, “All right! Awesome!” (Another great “A” word!)
As I applied appreciative accommodation to actively acquiring an abundance of “A” words, I aggressively accumulated assorted acronyms, adjectives, and adverbs. I abandoned archaic adherents (abhorrent to adapt or address) as I accelerated archiving antonyms. The amicable, appealing assurances actualized were the following awards: 1. An “A” for… Ardently arranging all “As” as addressed, attached, attended, accomplished, assembled and accounted for. 2. An appallingly analytical amusement for adopting an amazing attraction to an abnormal activity in my search for the perfect “A”.
AND…I acknowledge advancing to an agonized achievement of acquired ability to choose A word…finally. I feel especially agreeable to accessing what is accessible to aggressively activate this “A” agitation away from asylum!
This is how my mind works, dear reader. So many words, and all of them competing for my adoration. I preface this pause with weird meandering because I often process in this manner. It is so much fun until I drive myself crazy becoming overly absorbed studying A words. It is with great deliberation I’ve chosen this week’s word. In the running were words I love but didn’t choose: Authenticity, Audacity, Activism, Attention, Awareness, Apathy, Appearance, Attachment. The A word winner is…ACCEPTANCE.
Acceptance is synonymous with acquiescence, which comes from a Latin word which means, “to rest in”. Acceptance in human psychology means facing and recognizing the reality of a situation, process or condition without attempting to ignore, change or resist it.
Resistance to change often manifests as pain, suffering, despair, disease, death, angst, loss, or sadness. Change is constant in our world. Each of us, individually as well as collectively, is responsible for choosing responses to all change.
I’ve learned that fearful, negative or undesired thoughts and feelings are only released when I consciously choose to face my experience with neutrality: detach. observe. notice. embrace=D.O.N.E. (Perhaps a superficial acronym, yet memorable in a “go, do, get” world.) Done with the drama, avoidance, judgment, fear-based layers, I open the portal of possibility, unlocking the door for acceptance to enter my awareness.
Acceptance doesn’t mean I love “what is”; rather, I am choosing to acknowledge the situation without running away from my experience or deluding what is into made-up worries, chastisements, blame and reasons to escape, elude, circumvent, and willy-nilly life. Acceptance does not deny what it is. When I discard my attachment to my emotions (thoughts and feelings in motion), I am able to confront the condition before me without ignoring it, fixing it or making up horror stories about it. Detachment empowers me to objectively view what I’m experiencing without an accompanying storyline, releasing the masks of anger and accoutrement. I can observe my situation rationally, without the competing intentions of fear and ego clamoring for power and control. I notice how my thoughts and feelings become parallel. When I detach enough to observe my process, I notice that the movements of thought and feeling have subsided, and integration of thought(mind) and feeling(heart) is available. Whenever I choose to embrace this methodology without resorting to the emotional drama of non-acceptance, I heal my view of the situation and the world within me.
“Non” and “Un” are pronouns to words supporting negation. When I affirm, “It is what it is,” I’ve made the first step toward positive intervention. I am a conduit for miraculous healing when I choose to accept my role as a conscious spiritual embodied being, intentional about doing my part to improve what I can, and accepting my presence with “what is” as DONE.
Acceptance is what I consider the human equivalent of grace. So many differences, sufferings, disparities, conflicts, and subversive acts attack and invade my ability to navigate life as I would ideally choose in this world. Thankfully, throughout the course of history, humans have sought God, nature, humanity ,and art for support and ideation. These four pillars are grace-builders for me. These “Fabulous Four” supply catalogues of inspiration for our journey through Earth School. How amazing are the gifts of navigation provided for us if we choose to seek them!
When I consider the question, “Is there a universal truth?”, the only one I ardently hold as my truth is, “ All beings want to accept themselves and be accepted by others.” Acceptance is the first step toward the ultimate aspiration of my heart: Peace and Love intended and realized by and for all creation. The first step toward any kind of healing with ourselves and our planet is acceptance. We’re alive together. Let’s be DONE, accept each other, and choose to journey with peace and love.
Quote to consider: ( James Baldwin, “Notes of a Native Son” from Notes of A Native Son, 1955)
“It began to seem that one would have to hold in the mind forever two ideas which seemed to be in opposition. The first idea was acceptance, the acceptance, totally without rancor, of life as it is, and men as they are: in the light of this idea, it goes without saying that injustice is a commonplace. But this did not mean that one could be complacent, for the second idea was of equal power: that one must never, in one’s own life, accept these injustices as commonplace but must fight them with all one’s strength. This fight begins, however, in the heart and it now has been laid to my charge to keep my own heart free of hatred and despair.”